Thursday, October 29, 2009

Success and frustrations in Motherhood Land

SUCCESS:
I survived my first three nights of sleep training! It sucks!! But for me it is just what I needed to do.  Valencia slept through the whole 35 minutes of crying the first night, the second night there wasn't any crying until 6:30 am!!!! and last night Toby only cried 10 minutes until she crashed out while Valencia was humming along to Toby's mobile lullabies. I am hoping the worst is over but I'm sure we will have our challenges like everything else in Motherhood Land.

FRUSTRATION:
So right before having Toby we received a VERY generous gift from our my whole family, the Phil and Ted Vibe. We've been using it since end of April, about 6 - 7 months. The front wheel is wobbly I can't even go on walks without it going all crazy on me! WTF!! A stroller that expensive should almost push itself. Now, Phil and Ted wants us to box our stroller, ship it to them so they can look at it and maybe replace the front wheel. Oh ya and we need to find a proof of purchase...this is way too much trouble for me but I have know other choice. As I researched this problem on the internet it is actually quite common with the Vibe. It doesn't happen to all them but a lot of people have complained about this. I took it to a bike shop yesterday to see if they can fix the problem, the guy took one look at it and said sorry lady this is poorly designed and has nothing to do with the wheel but the plastic around it...uggghhhh





Off to V's first day of gymnastics and this afternoon she gets to visit the dentist. Hopefully, she will have a chance to ride her new bike and scooter today! Oh the joys of Motherhood Land!

Thursday, October 22, 2009

Open Hearts & Minds...

Today was a great day, I made sure Valencia had a special day. I think we made it through the day with only 2 tantrums, that's a good day! Her Tia Hayley, Tio Dudu & primo (cousin) Adri threw her an awesome birthday party. She had so much fun! Thank you for making her day that much more special.




Anyone that is within our circle knows we spend A LOT of time with my family, there is nothing like them. Each and every member of the family brings so much to the proverbial table. This is one area in my life that I don't compromise. At the end of the day I know I can go to each one of them for support, love and laughs. We, the family, instill this into Valencia since she is the oldest offspring. She knows how important each person is and makes them feel loved. She loves kissing and hugging them, something that melts my heart.

I want to share this story, I wish we all had open hearts, eyes and minds like Valencia did today.

We went to the downtown Albertson's to order Valencia's birthday cake for another family birthday party (yes it's her bday all week). A toothless, ragged homeless man in a wheelchair was close to us and V walked right up to him and announced that today was her Birthday with such pride. The man's whole face lit up and was so touched that she spoke to him. He told her to wait that he had something special for her as he was rifling through his pockets. He pulled out a dollar bill and offered it to her, she didn't accept and my Mom and I were watching in awe of this tender moment (Valencia was taught by the family to only accept $50 and above). I then realized how good she made him feel - I think next time I see somebody I wouldn't usually smile or talk too (basically acknowledge) I will reconsider.

Thanks for teaching me many lessons Valencia and Happy B Day!

 

Birthday Girl!

Today is Valencia's T-H-I-R-D Birthday. I have a day planned full of fun! I can't believe my little baby is a full blown preschooler who has strong opinions and understands life a little bit more each day. I remember her birth like it was yesterday, the best day of my life, the first day to motherhood - a gift for the rest of my life. I will post pictures later of all our fun activities. Let's pray for under 10 tantrums today (cross your fingers)!



So much excitement!

Happy Birthday Valencia Rose!!!!!

Sunday, October 18, 2009

Valencia Loving Toby

I haven't gotten many good shots of Valencia loving her sister, it's a rare occasion...but I have to share these tender moments.


Sleep Over

I haven't neglected you, my blog, I just have been uber busy. I am a mom of two, a wife of one, and women of many ambitions and high expectations of herself.

On the bright side of the things we finally had a weekend full of fun and hanging with the "Chillingtons" chillness. On Friday we shipped Valencia off for the night to my cousin's house for a slumber party. I wasn't sure how it was going to go over since she didn't nap but V insisted (as much as a 3 year can) she was up for it. When we got home that late afternoon, we packed up her stuff in her Dora suite case and she was opening the door ready to go and not turning back before my cousin Jenn even got to our house.



She needed her essentials; her books, her panda, her blankie, pj's, a clean pair of underwear, a new outfit for the next day and her toothbrush/paste. I was a little nervous so I continuously was texting Jenn to make sure V was on her best behavior and not wanting to come home. Jenn kept me at ease and updated me with pictures of Valencia with big smiles...both were having a blast. I got a little nervous when I texted Jenn to make sure V fell asleep ok at 10:15 but was surprised that she was wide awake not wanting to go to sleep and waiting to see what the next fun project was going to be. She finally fell asleep. Needless to say I'm not even sure she wanted us to come get her the next morning. The first thing she said when she saw me was "I want to spend the night at Jennifer's again!"

Saturday morning we had the delight of participating in a garage sale, it always feels so good to clean out some of the junk in my house, just to make room for the next generation of junk.  We ran some much needed errands and prepared for our fun evening at Seaworld for Spooktacular. V was so excited to finally dress in her Halloween costume. SeaWorld was a zoo, every pumpkin, ghost and bumblebee in town attended.

This week is very exciting! We will be celebrating Valencia's birthday all week! I'll post pictures of our week full of fun!

Wednesday, October 14, 2009

Gratitude

Today, after many days of feeling stressed by life, I feel grateful by it all. I have so many things to be gracious for. My two beautiful, healthy girls. My loving, supportive handsome and humorous husband that helps keep me smiling and keeping life light when it needs to be. My mother that watches my adorable but high maintenance 6 month old so I can exercise. My brothers, sisters, cousin and friends that keep me honest, encouraged, and loved.  Last but not least...is Cooper, my little white poodle who last week caught a cold and would have sneezing fits of 15-20 doggy "haaachuuuus" in a row....

My (almost) three year old put it all into perspective today when she asked me in her sing song little voice "Mommy, are you happy or are you mad?". To which I replied "I am MAD as HELL and I'm gonna throttle you like Homer does to Bart!" KIDDING!!!

I don't want her to remember her mommy being mad, frustrated, angry but rather happy, fun and loving.

Thanks for reading these thoughts and you'll read from me manana...buenas noches!

Monday, October 12, 2009

HELP....I have a Dilemma/Quandry/Tough Nut to Crack



I'm ready... not sure if Toby Joss is though. Yes, I am ready for baby #2, almost six months old, to leave her first nest and cozy up with her older sister in her room. I am ready for the night feedings to be done with. I would love to sleep one night with not having to wake up to nurse and just pure quiet stillness in our bedroom.

But, wait there's a dilemma/quandry/tough nut to crack...

If I put Toby in the crib in Valencia's room and she cries for her 3 am feeding... does that mean I will have 2 kids up in the middle of the night to put back to sleep? The thought of that terrorizes me. Ok, let's say Valencia doesn't wake up when Toby's stirs and coos during the middle of the night, will they both be up at 5 am if one happens to wake up and starts moving around and making noise? That doesn't sound tempting either. That's just to early for me to function with 2.

What about the fact that V loves to climb into the crib and play. Oh ya, she likes to poke and squeeze her new baby sister too. I can't sleep with one eye open watching the video cam I am going to have to buy to make sure V doesn't "tuck and hug" Toby.

What do I do? Take the risk? Maybe I am overthinking overreacting this whole transition. Maybe it will be a breeze. Maybe the girls will love sharing a room....

Maybe I should just try it.


Friday, October 9, 2009

Boob Tube



Hands Down my husband, Peter, has found one of the best shows on TV. Actually he has found quite a few and I will tell you our favorites so far this season. I must say I never thought I would one day be an avid TV watcher but with 2 small kids that go to bed early I spend most of my nights unwinding on the computer and television. Since Peter is in advertising sales his excuse for watching so much TV is that it's part of his job...great excuse! Onto some of the best shows of the season;

Man Shops Globe - this is a new 8 series 30 minute program on the Sundance Channel. The buyer for Anthropology draws you into his buying adventures around the world. Keith, the buyer enthralls you with his amazing talent of immediately seeing what he is looking for as soon as he lays eyes on it. He knows where to go and finds treasures around every corner. This is a must see! http://www.sundancechannel.com/man-shops-globe/

Glee - Must I say more?? Brilliant, creative and joyful. http://www.fox.com/glee/

Locked up Abroad - This one is tough to watch but is exciting and gets you're adrenaline rolling. For us whose lives aren't too crazy, in fact quite sheltered, and not as spontaneous and exciting as it was before children this is a reality shocker of a different world out there. Check this one out on NatGeo (National Geographic) http://channel.nationalgeographic.com/series/locked-up-abroad

Bravo has some pretty good reality smut but I haven't found one (ok besides the bachelor) better than Top Chef! http://www.bravotv.com/top-chef

Another great foodie show is No Reservations with Chef Anthony Bourdain on the Travel Channel. He has an awesome book out too. http://www.travelchannel.com/TV_Shows/Anthony_Bourdain

Californication - Hunky Hank Moody and his shaninigans are a BLAST...can't get enough of this show. This is a showtime series, other GREAT showtime series are Weeds and Nurse Jackie which just ended their series for the season. http://www.sho.com/site/californication/home.do

We also enjoy some HBO series but nothing on for the Fall. Looking forward to Big Love returning in January and Entourage which ended last Sunday. Peter thoroughly enjoys True Blood, Curb your Enthusiasm and Hung. http://www.hbo.com/series/

We are usually checking out a few new shows here and there but nothing else noteworthy. Do you have any recommendations for us?

Pumpkin Station FUN

Valencia and her friends had a BLAST at the Pumpkin Station in Del Mar!


 
 

Thursday, October 8, 2009

SALE SALE SALE

For those who live in the San Diego Area Child Style is having a big sale. Here are the details:

Style Child is having a BIG sale.

What:
10 - 50% OFF on almost everything in the store
A $10 table...that's cheaper than some lunches...

When:
October 8 - 10, 2009 (Thurs through Sat)

Where:
Style Child
619-220-0480
1070 University Ave J101
San Diego, CA 92103

Off to the pumpkin patch today, I will post pictures later.

Have a great day!

Wednesday, October 7, 2009

I am excited to share these 3 articles I received in my e-mail box from a good friend of mine, Jules. When you have a chance check them out, they're worth the read.

'Brigitte'
'Brigitte'
Beginning in January 2010, the magazine, published in Hamburg by Gruner & Jahr, plans instead to work with staff members and with readers who are invited to register in an online audition. All the women featured will be identified by their profession or passions in life, in an attempt to combat the objectification of women. While this might look like a cost-cutting exercise, it is in fact a response to two different trends, according to editor in chief Andreas Lebert. He said in the statement, "Behind the career of a model lies the idea of not showing women themselves. Now many women find this outdated, especially the beauty ideals, molded by the fashion industry, that are highly controversial."
Brigitte has a readership of 3.21 million and was founded in 1954. It is aimed at the "middle youth" market of professional women and mothers of school-age children. Mr. Lebert claimed that Brigitte's readers want to see "real" women, but it remains to be seen how the fashion houses and advertisers will view this radical move and whether they will adjust their own images to fit with the Brigitte aesthetic.
The magazine's website announces, "Because beauty has many faces, from now on we will use not models, but women like you and us. What counts is the personality. We invite you to join in. ... Because women do not need a deputy. ... Because clothing is not a matter of trends, but of personality."
In a similar move, a group of French politicians recently proposed legislation demanding that magazines put warnings on airbrushed adverts and photo spreads to alert readers when an image has been retouched to change a person's physical appearance.
Alexander Schulman, the editor of British Vogue, sent out a letter in June appealing to major fashion houses to end the "size-zero" culture, accusing them of forcing magazines to hire models with "jutting bones and no breasts or hips" by supplying only "minuscule" garments for photo shoots.
Two years ago, Spain stipulated a minimum body mass index for catwalk models.
Plus Size Models Get Naked for Glamour Magazine

On the C.L.: The Picture You Can?t Stop Talking About: Meet ?the Woman on p. 194?: glamour.com

This is the first I've heard of all the attention Glamour was getting from these beautiful images of these "plus" size models. I am not digging that these normal, beautiful women are called plus size when they are normal sized women. But hey at least we are opening the doors in the right direction. Imagine the day our daughters open up a magazine and see a normal sized model or an everyday off the street woman in most or all of the magazine. Is this wishful thinking? Well, in some European countries they are starting this January of 2010.

I was haunted and obsessed by my weight and how I looked when I was a teen. It was rough since I never was as skinny as my friends. It's just not in my blood or my metabolism. Now I honor my body and know we all come in different shapes and sizes, that's what makes us unique and beautiful. I only try to be healthy and a good role model to my daughters. There is nothing new in the fact that we are a society obsessed with good looks, sex appeal and thinness there's a needlepoint pillow somewhere that says..."you can never be to rich or to thin" and we should already be at a place of being more accepting of all body images, unfortunately it's just not a reality yet but the magazines listed above are bringing us to a better/knowledgeable place.

I hope that other magazines follow this trend Brigitte is leading. Let's just hope with this new trend that these magazines that can influence many young women stay in print and doesn't close their doors due to a decline in advertising dollars.

Tuesday, October 6, 2009

I have been working on two more projects (besides this blog!) including planning Valencia's birthday, mostly mentally and emotionally. I can't believe child #1 is turning three already. I am mostly scared and fear the three's. Lately I have caught a glimpse of whats to come - you know those crazy and explosive tantrums. This year I decided to keep things super mellow mostly for my sanity.


My other project is a wedding photo book. I have been "hired" by my brother and sister-in-law to make them a beautiful photo book of their wedding that captures their special day. I can't wait to dig into this - I like to get creative and make them very unique. I will be sure to share once completed. They are a great way to save money, they don't cost nearly the amount a photographer charges (sorry fellow photographer friends but we are in a serious economical crunch).

I have many more creative projects I would love to complete this coming year. I hope I can find time between being a taxi driver, chef, maid, blogger, mother, wife....you get my drift.

Saturday, October 3, 2009

A little bit and than some

I wanted to share the pictures that we took today from the Shamu & You Walk. We had a total of 9 people that signed up to walk and 3 people donated. We raised a total of $318 in less than 2 weeks. I feel pretty proud since our goal was $250...we beat it and more. I look forward to starting earlier next year and hopefully Sara, Brian and Triton ~ our hero and warrior ~ will join us.

Thank you so much for helping me make this possible and representing Triton and our community childrens hospital.

So far the Community has raised a Total  of $241,151 for Rady's Children Hospital here in San Diego!!




Friday, October 2, 2009

ROCKtober 2009

Can you believe it's already October? Where has the time gone? Before we know it we will be deep into 2010. But before we get there, they're so many great things happening this month. Listed by date 

1. My G-d son's birthday Kaivo. Happy 3rd Birthday Mr. Handsome!

2. Me and Team Hot Mamas for Triton will walk 4 miles for the Rady Children Hospital!

3. My bro's birthday. Happy Birthday Tio D!



4. Daughter #1 Birthday. Happy 3rd Birthday Va! A side note, those that had or have 3 year olds any advice (or books to read) on how to handle this stage are highly recommended.

5. Happy Halloween



What's Shakin' on your October?

Thursday, October 1, 2009

The beauty of going GLUTEN-FREE



65.5 pounds down since giving birth to my 5.5 month old "chunk of love" Toby Joss (she weighed 9lbs 1oz at birth). Only 20 more lbs' to go! Yes, I gained 62 pounds with each baby. Lost only 50 after the first and than BAM I got pregnant again. The picture of me above is at my brother's wedding only 4 weeks after giving birth. If we lived in Uruguay "they" would have called me the endearing term "Gordita".

I have to share this great phenomenon I recently became conscious about.  After giving birth and having to shop for wedding attire for my brother's wedding, I couldn't take it anymore. I had two options to wear a moo moo or squeeze into pants and a blouse - all black of course. I opted for pants, I had officially hit my rock bottom. I couldn't look at myself in the mirror. I couldn't take the bloating, gas (sorry TMI...but I could have flown to Pittsburgh), fatigue and gross feeling, my body was aching for a change. My mind was visualizing me in my skinny pants and my emotional well-being was at high risk.

I had remembered a nutritionist that I had once seen years ago. She helped me get to a place where you actually wanted to walk around in a bikini all day. I wanted to be back to that place, maybe not a bikini after two kids but a cute little one piece would make me happy. Anyways, I had remembered that a few years after I saw her she moved away to San Franciso. So I thought maybe she could recommend someone in San Diego for me to see.

After a few days trying to remember her name and calling a wellness center she use to work for (they had to no idea who I was talking about since I had her name wrong) I finally found her in my google search (which is cool and eerie all at once, they are the new Big Brother). I couldn't believe she had moved back to San Diego and had her own practice. I immediately got on the phone and with much excitement asked her to ring me back ASAP.

I saw her the following week and have been on this journey with her since that phone call. She taught me how to eat Gluten-Free foods since I had all the signs of being sensitive to gluten (as well as diary and a few other foods, which are completely out of my diet). I feel amazing. I wake up after only sleeping 4 to 6 hours refreshed and full of energy to start my day - I don't even drink coffee anymore. It took a few days (probably closer to 10 days) for my Latin blood to get use to that but after 2 days my headaches were gone and I was on my way. The picture below was taken in early September and have since lost 10 more pounds :) not my best picture - too busy snapping shots of my girls than my self. But you get the idea.




I have worked very hard and have been very motivated to get to this place. I hope to continue with my new lifestyle change and look forward to learn how to eat healthy, exercise longer and harder and feel confident in my skin once again.

If anyone is interested in joining me check out my nutritionist; Diana Fatayerji, M.S., Ph.D. Check her out at http://doctordiana.com/